Since posting these pics a few people have asked me why I have done them and why I picked this particular theme. The answer is pretty simple. Fat shaming has been a part of my life for as long as I can remember. And eating disorders are something I have struggled with since high school.
In my teens I tried to avoid eating, in my early twenty’s I started to over eat and by my late twenty’s I was bulimic.
Have someone point out your weight gain the second it happens makes you very self-conscious. Comments such a “did you gain weight?”, “Wow you’re getting a belly”, “That skirt makes your stomach stick out” and ”You used to be hot when you were thin” have the potential to cause a lot of harm even if they were not meant to.
Fat shaming doesn’t encourage people to lose weight, it doesn’t motivate, and it doesn’t help. Fat shaming makes matters much worse, it makes you feel ugly and worthless and for people like me, we often find that the only relief is to reach for the junk food and temporarily drown our sorrows in that wonderful rush of endorphins that foods like chocolate give us.
If you truly want to help then don’t tell someone they are fat or need to lose weight, tell them that they are beautiful, tell them they matter, tell them how much you like/love/respect them, make them feel like they matter.
From Diversity in Feminism Julia O’Regan
Photography by Steve Haywood
Makeup by Gaelle Mokoy